Aidan's (and Mommy's!) Favorite Baby Items

I have lots of friends having babies these days, and several of them have asked "okay, so what have you loved that might not have been on my registry list or that I might not have thought to get?"  Of course you need the standard clothes, swaddling blankets, car seat, etc but we have found a few other gadgets and items (mostly through trial and error as we have gotten to know our little guy and what he likes and doesn't like!) that have been huge life savers for us.  Some may think some of these items seem "superfluous" or unnecessary, and perhaps for your family and baby that's true.  But here are some things I have been grateful for almost every day we've had them--maybe don't get these right away, but down the road you may want to try some of these for yourself.

The Baby Book by the Sears'  By far this is hands down my favorite baby book.  I love this book, and wish I had read more of it before Aidan was born.  It's big, but it covers EVERYTHING you might need to know for their first two years--including some on child birth, lots on feeding, sleeping, first aid (including tylenol doses--something they don't print on the baby tylenol bottles), and then chapters on development month by month.  They include a lot of fun ideas on how to play with babies of each age, tips for dads, and I feel like they approach things in a fairly realistic manner.  This is one of the first books I've read where I don't feel guilty for some choice I make as a mom.  They do have a strong attachment parenting bent, but as I'm learning more and venturing more into the world of parenting I have found that I line up more with the attachment style of parenting anyways, so this book has fit me well.  If I had to recommend one baby resource book, this would be it (because it covers everything in one place!)

The Sleepy Wrap  This was my favorite wrap when Aidan was a newborn, but I was so intimidated by using it I didn't try it until he was almost 2 months old.  Big mistake!  I wish I'd learned how to use this way earlier!  It's a really long piece of fabric that you wrap around you in various configurations to create a pouch for baby to ride in.  It's SUPER soft and stretchy and comfortable, and Aidan liked this one better than my other carriers.  He's too big for it now, but when we have our next baby I'll be using this WAY more than I did with him because we truly loved it.

The Woombie  Okay this one we found out of desperation.  I truly think it was a 3 AM google find!  Our little one NEEDS to be swaddled to sleep.  He wiggles and wiggles and his little arms and legs move constantly, which wakes him up the minute you lay him down.  Only problem is that pretty soon he got too strong and too big for swaddle blankets.  He wiggled out of even the tightest swaddle right away and we spent literally all night getting up and down re-swaddling him so he could go back to sleep.  After several nights of getting up every hour to re-swaddle I started googling to see what other solutions were out there.  Enter The Woombie.  I watched the demo videos and then paid a ridiculous amount of money to get this overnighted to me because I wasn't going to spend one more night reswaddling this kid if I could help it.  It's a zip up swaddle pod that lets him actually move a bit but his little arms and legs can't flail about and wake him up.  There are a variety of styles, and we have the "summer" woombie which is lighter fabric (which lets him move more) and the woombie convertible which has snap on sleeve openings, so when we start transitioning him to sleeping with arms out we can do one at a time easily.  We love the woombie, I cannot sing it's praise enough because I haven't had to reswaddle him at 3 AM once in a month!

The Fisher Price Rock and Play Sleeper  This is another one we discovered out of desperation.   Our little guy was just diagnosed with reflux, which is a super common baby issue, and accounts in part for his terrible sleep.  Since we learned this was an issue, we tried everything--letting him sleep in the bouncer, in the swing, elevating his crib mattress, wedging him in different positions with rolled blankets, propping him against a hot water bottle to give him the illusion of being held by a warm body, letting him sleep in bed with me (which is still probably his favorite spot to be honest), and nothing worked.  This kid still woke up every 45 minutes all night long. Every night.  That's a lot of lost sleep for both him and us!  I remembered a friend had raved about this little portable sleeper when her baby was little, and I had no idea if it would help but I figured I'd ask if we could borrow it.  Once she heard he had reflux she insisted we come get it ASAP--apparently in the Amazon reviews of it a ton of parents of reflux kids raved about this sleeper.  That night we brought it home, set it up next to my side of the bed, and put our sleeping babe in it.  THREE HOURS later he woke up to eat and I was SHOCKED when I saw what time it was.  Since then we have consistently gotten 2-3 hour stretches of sleep out of him in this little bed (which for him is AWESOME), probably because of the steep angle it keeps him at (sleeping more upright is more comfortable for babies with reflux) and because it helps him feel like he's being held by the steep sides.  I love this product, and if you happen to end up with a reflux baby who won't sleep, I couldn't recommend this highly enough!

White Noise Machine  We learned before he was born that babies often like white noise (the sound of the hair dryer, vacuum, static, babbling water etc) because it mimics the sound of the womb.  When Aidan was 2 days old we downloaded a white noise app onto my husband's iphone and were shocked to see how instantly it worked to quiet him and calm him (it still does today).  We went to get a continuous white noise machine for his room (this is the style we got) and now he sleeps every night with the sound of either ocean waves or a babbling stream.  We have LOUD upstairs neighbors and a fairly loud apartment complex and this has been a lifesaver--he already sleeps so little I didn't want his sleep interrupted by our noisy neighbors!)  We travel with it and now that he's sleeping in our room for awhile we have it set up in there--and I'm learning I love sleeping with it, I sleep way better!  So we may be getting another one when we move him back to his room!

Video Baby Monitor  From day one we have had Aidan in his own bedroom.  For the first 3 weeks my mom was in there on an air mattress so we didn't use a monitor, she kept an ear out for him and brought him to me when he needed to eat.  But once she left we started using this and it has been SO helpful.  I can see him to know if what I'm hearing is really him or needs my response, or if it's just him making noises in his sleep.  I can watch him if he's in his crib playing, and it has saved many many trips running back and forth between my bed and his room in the middle of the night when I think I hear something.  Now that we're working so much on his sleep and he's actually sleeping next to my bed we use this during nap time when he's in his own room and eventually we'll transition him back to his room at night.  LOVE this, and am so glad we splurged on this one.

Rainforest Bouncer  This has been a lifesaver.  I have never been one of those moms who is okay just leaving my kid in a bouncer or swing for hours on end, even if he's happy.  I think babies need way more interaction and play time on their backs, tummies, sitting on my lap etc  BUT, every day during mom's shower and while I made dinner Aidan got to hang out in his bouncer because he was safe, happy, and contained.  He still does even now that he's rolling and wiggling more (sometimes I just need him contained in one spot!)  Now that he's eating oatmeal but isn't sitting up straight in a chair, this is his feeding spot too.  It didn't work to solve our sleep problems with his reflux but it's been awesome for so many other things!

I think that's about it--those are our favorites that don't always show up on registry lists or on other people's lists.  How bout you?  What were your favorite baby products??

Sunday Round Up

I don't spend an insane amount of time surfing the web--I read a handful of blogs, I check Facebook (probably more than I should), and I check Pinterest every couple days to see what new and amazing things have been posted.  I don't read news sites hardly at all (which would explain why I had no idea there was an eclipse tonight until I saw people posting about it on, you guessed it, facebook...) and there just isn't a lot else I look at unless I'm researching something specific.  But, each week I do stumble across various articles, posts, or ideas that catch my attention and I thought I'd share a couple of those links on here each week--things I think are worth a look.  I know several others who do this and I'm always intrigued by what they choose to link to, and generally enjoy reading what they share.  So, without further ado, here are the pieces of the world wide web I think are worth a look along with a short excerpt from each.


Where is the Mommy War for the Motherless Child?

"This is the only mommy war I’ll wage.  I’m confident that most mothers are doing the best that they can for their kids, even if their choices are different than mine.  I think it’s ridiculous that so much energy is spent on debating largely inconsequential parenting decisions when so very little attention is given to the children who DON’T HAVE PARENTS. Why isn’t this causing outrage?  Making magazine covers? Inciting ranty twitter posts? This is the war I’ll be involved in: We, as a society, are not doing enough to protect at-risk and motherless children, both in our country and globally.  (Because apparently we’re too busy worrying about that kid whose mom gave him formula)."

What Should a Four Year Old Know? (A BEAUTIFUL list--this is what I want for my son!)

"We are such a competitive culture that even our preschoolers have become trophies and bragging rights. Childhood shouldn’t be a race.  So here, I offer my list of what a 4 year old should know."

Fantasies and the Fog

"Motherhood sits you down on the floor of life, closes the door, and asks you to do your best work, moment by moment, with no one watching. This is torture for someone like me. I don’t plod well. I certainly don’t plod well with no one watching. I need a crowd, some adoring fans, a cheering section, loud applause, a fight song in my honor. A full color spread in a magazine, at the very least."

Four Months--Roll Baby Roll!

That's right, you little man, are no longer stationary!  You're a roller!  You absolutely shocked Mommy one day with this new trick.  We hadn't been practicing, I hadn't helped you learn the motor movements at all, you just rolled over one day and haven't stopped ever since!  You don't tend to go from your tummy to your back, just from your back to your tummy, so eventually you'll start yelling for someone to come rescue you from your tummy time, but you are getting so much better about happily hanging out on your tummy, watching your toys, looking in your mirror, or staring at the squares of fabric on the quilt Oma made you (that we have spread out on the floor as your play-mat).  You seem quite proud of your newfound skill, and now we have to watch you all the closer as you will try and roll off anything, including your changing table, if we're not constantly holding on to you.

You are getting SO big!  At your 4 month appointment on May 15, 2012, you weighed in at 15 pounds even and 25.5 inches long.  Everywhere we go people comment on how long you are--you are either growing early or you inherited some of your Papa's height!  (You have also inherited some of his reddish hi-lights in your hair, which Mommy thinks is adorable).

Your fourth month was a big one!  You have been getting so much better about using your hands to grab at toys, hold on to things, and most importantly, get them to your mouth!  You'll hold on to your toy or your blankie and look at it, feel it, and eventually it will find its way into your little open mouth as you taste it.  Mommy doesn't mind, it keeps you quiet and busy in the car or while in the grocery store or stroller!  You will also chew on my arm, my shoulder, my shirt, your burp cloth, or anything that comes near your face.

You started discovering your feet a little, you haven't gotten too good at grabbing them yet, but you have at least seen them and realize they always show up wherever you are, so they must be attached to you!

We have learned that you are a super observant little dude, wanting to be carried everywhere facing forward so you can see what's going on in the world, and you get fussy if we don't have you turned the right way.  You are getting better and better at just sitting on one of our laps watching the world around you, which makes taking you places a little easier!  You experienced the church nursery for the first time during Mommy's last MOPS meeting of the year--you only lasted about 30 minutes before they came to get me because you were hungry, but that's okay, I just wanted you to try it!  You have stayed with several different baby sitters this month and we're hoping you will always grow up knowing there is an entire community of people around you who love you and have helped care for you.  Bob and Sheila, Jim and Chris, Ryan and Alethia, Elizabeth and Jen, all of them have taken such good care of you and have given mommy and daddy some time away.

It has also been the month of..well...a lot of fussiness and not a lot of sleep.  We couldn't figure out what was going on with you--you started waking up every hour all night long, and have for about a month now, and you have been fussy a lot--crying a lot during feedings and when you had to burp, and finally we figured out that you have acid reflux.  Poor baby bug!  You've probably had it for months now, and we didn't put all the pieces together--Mommy is so sorry!  But we have you on medicine for it now, and even though your sleep hasn't really improved we at least have seen a big improvement in your eating--you are much calmer and don't scream as much when you have to burp.  I bet you've been hurting for awhile now, no wonder you can't sleep!  I am so glad to know they have medicines for things like this, but I will say it's been a really hard month.  Your grandma came for a few days to help and I know you wore her out!  After she left we had a really really hard week, and I have to admit, your mommy called her mommy every day in tears, because I couldn't get you to sleep, you fussed a lot, and I was so tired and so frustrated.  It's gotten a little better, but Grandma is coming back next week for a couple more days--I think she was worried about us!  So little man, in some ways this month has been SO SO fun--you have learned so much and interact so much and it is a blast to watch you learn and grow.  And in other ways this has been a very hard month--but hopefully things are getting a bit better with you!

We have learned that you have LOTS of stories to tell, and are talking to us all the time.  Aidan, I hope you always know that no matter what story you have to tell, your mommy and daddy want you to know we want to listen.  If you're chilling on your play mat or in your bouncer and just playing I am okay letting you just be, but when you start talking I try my hardest to stop what I'm doing and come make eye contact with you and listen to you.  Even though I have no idea what you're saying, I hope you always know that your stories are SO important to us!  Please keep telling us what's going on in your little mind!  I read that we are forming in you how you will interact with others for the rest of your life in these first couple years--and one thing I hope you will always do is realize how important people's stories are, and that you will always listen well and be heard.

Other fun outings this month included your first movie (The 5 Year Engagement) on a double date with your Mommy, and Karen and Joshua.  Every Monday morning the theater here has Mommy Movie Morning--so they show a film but leave some of the lights on, don't make it quite as loud, and have a changing table set up in the theater.  There were a ton of other moms and babies there which was awesome!  You also went to the beach for the first time!  We took you to Santa Monica for a couple hours to walk around and daddy showed you the waves for the first time--he was quite excited :)

My last favorite thing I realized this month is that you really recognize your Mommy in a crowd of people!  It was so so fun the moment I realized this, the moment I first saw you really quiet your fussing and turn towards my voice when someone else was holding you--and it happened for the first time in a very obvious way this past month.  I love that when you are being passed around you look for me, and as long as I'm somewhere nearby you're generally okay with whoever has you.  While you grow little one, I hope you always think of me as your safe place in this amazing world that is teeming with things for you to discover.  I love you my sweet Aidan, you bring so much joy to my life!

Should

From the moment I held that little plastic stick in my hand watching a "yes" show up in the little window, I have somehow become the queen of second guessing myself.  Oh not the decision to have a baby, I've never thought twice about that, even in the toughest of times over the last few months.  No, the decision to try for a child is not something I've ever second guessed.  It's all the other ones!  I've always known I'm a bit of a rule follower, I have always had a consistent idea of the do's and don'ts that have governed my life.  I like to do things by the book.  I just had no idea how that was going to impact me as a Mom.   You probably have realized how many books on parenting, babies, and every topic related to these there are in this world.  A lot.  No longer is there one trusted go-to resource that all parents rely on (I'm not sure there ever was, but there really isn't one today!)  When in the hospital we heard from many different nurses, doctors, lactation consultants, and child-educators about all the things we "should" do with our baby or definitely should not do.  By the time I was discharged my head was spinning with information, some of it that directly conflicted with information someone else had given me.  I was a mental mess, feeling so overwhelmed and completely at a loss as to what to do with my little bundle of fussiness that came home with us from the hospital.  People kept telling me "feed on demand," and "you can't spoil a baby this little," but then other books I read kept telling me "don't nurse your baby to sleep or he'll never sleep without it."  Some books said "let your baby sleep with you or on you because that's where he's most comfortable."  Others said "you have to teach them from day 1 how to start putting themselves to sleep."  On and on it's continued--advice that sounds great and logical that directly conflicts with other advice that also sounds great and logical (and some that just sounds downright crazy to me).  I would literally lay awake stressing about what advice to follow for a given situation, and I was driving myself crazy.

Until I received the best advice I think I have ever gotten when it comes to parenting.  I had called my uncle, a pediatrician for 30 years and a father of 4, to ask a few questions about sleep, and what is "normal" for a baby Aidan's age and how to help him sleep a little better.  He talked for a few minutes about sleep in general and then said "Sarah, there is no "should" here.  There is no one way to raise a baby or feed him or help him sleep or 'train' him.  Aidan is going to be who Aidan is, and if what he's doing is fine with you, who cares if it's on track with what the books say he 'should' be doing.  You need to trust your instinct.  You know him better than anyone on this planet, and you get to be the one to decide what he "should" be doing."  Tears came to my eyes as I felt the weight of trying to get my son to fit into the mold of what the "experts" say a 3 month old should or should not be doing be lifted off my shoulders.  He's healthy, he's fine, he's growing and learning and getting to know the world around him.  I wasn't a bad parent because I couldn't get my baby to sleep the way the books told me to.  (as an aside, after many conversations with other parents I have since decided that the people who write the sleep books on babies are kind of full of crap.  If a huge majority of 3 month old babies actually slept the way the books say they "should" be sleeping, no one would buy their books because no desperate sleep deprived parent would be on amazon looking for solutions at 3 in the morning!)

My uncle went on to tell me that he does tell parents there are some non-negotiable things in parenting.  Your kids absolutely have to know they are unconditionally loved by parents who will always be there for them.  Your kids need to be safe and protected, in their beds, in a car, while eating or playing--you can't just ignore car seat laws because you don't want to be told how your kid "should" be strapped in.  However, the biggest gift he gave me that day is he helped me realize my job is to let Aidan be Aidan.  It's not my job to cram him into some mold that some "expert" who will never meet my son set up.  He said he tells parents that if what their baby is doing is working for them and their family, then don't mess with it--don't change what you're doing.  It's when a baby's behavior starts to negatively impact the mental health or well being of the family that changes might need to be made with the help of a pediatrician.  (Aidan went through a stage of waking every 45 minutes, all night long, looking for mommy to nurse.  As you can imagine, this was negatively impacting me big time and led to us needing to think about helping him change his eating patterns a bit). I've felt the freedom in the past week to change some of the ways I'm working with him when it comes to sleep, and all of a sudden, when I relaxed and really thought about who this little person is and what I already know of his little personality, and made the appropriate changes, we're all sleeping a little better.  I made some decisions and changes with him that I never thought I would, but I'm okay with that.  My guess is when we have our next baby some day I'll have to make different decisions based on his or her personality, but I think that's what makes a wise parent--someone willing to look at their individual child and adapt parenting decisions based on those observations.  I think there will always be "shoulds" in parenting, and it will always be tempting to compare our kids with others, but I am going to do everything in my power to remember my uncle's wise words--"Aidan is going to be who Aidan is, and your job as his mom is to learn who that is and adjust your parenting to him.  And above all, trust your instinct, you really do have what it takes to raise this little person, even without all the books!"  I know there are so many other new moms out there feeling the same way--so bogged down with information, with "shoulds" and "should nots" and who are quietly feeling guilty about making a parenting decision that doesn't line up with what the "experts" say.  My hope is we can all free ourselves just a little bit from that kind of pressure and trust our instincts.  God created each of these little people uniquely, and we get the joyful, amazing, and sometimes difficult process of becoming students of the children He has placed in our lives.

7 Quick Takes Wednesday

My little one is actually in bed and asleep (for the moment) and my husband is at youth group, which means I actually get a bit of time to myself this evening and so I thought I'd pay a visit to the old neglected blog.  I wish I had the energy and brain power these days to write meaningful, thought provoking posts about motherhood, faith, life, or literature, but well...as much as I have these thoughts swirling around in my brain all the time I rarely have the energy to put them on paper.  Maybe writing a post in the 7-Quick takes style that I used to write weekly will start the words flowing!  So without further ado, here's the latest in the Kennedy household:

**1**

I have to take a second to brag about my super awesome dad.  Tomorrow night he graduates from the University of Minnesota as a Family Nurse Practitioner!  Three years ago he went back to school and has spent the past three years writing papers, doing projects, participating in clinicals and internships, and reading a ton.  He'll now be working taking care of people of all ages.  We are so so proud of you Dad and are so excited for this next career in your life!  

**2**

We're getting settled in here at our new church which is so wonderful!  When Charles took this job it was on an interim basis, but not long ago the elders of the church voted to remove the interim part of his title and keep him on as their permanent youth director!  Which means we get to be here for quite awhile!  We have been SO blessed by this community already and cannot express how grateful we are to get to stay here and begin raising our son in this congregation.  He'll be baptized father's day weekend by Jim, our senior pastor and friend, and we can't wait!

**3**

I have been reading quite a bit while I nurse our munchkin, and for awhile I was striking out with books.  I tried reading The Emperor's Children but was not interested at all (I thought it was going to be so much better than it was).  Then I picked up The Swiss Family Robinson because I've never read it and it's a classic and it was on my list of books to read this year.  Yeah...if I'm ever stranded on a desert island, this is the book I want with me because it gives detailed instructions on how to do everything you would need to do in order to survive.  But just for pleasure reading?  YAWN.....But the last book I read, The Lightning Thief (the first book in the Percy Jackson series) was fantastic.  It was written for middle schoolers, all about Greek mythology coming to life here in modern day America (Percy is the son of one of the gods but doesn't know that until he's 12).  There are many similarities between this and Harry Potter in my opinion but it's equally as entertaining!  I'll be picking up book 2 in the series soon!

**4**

A few weeks ago I posted about how my menu from this month is coming from our new cookbook Parents Need to Eat Too, and let me just say this book is fantastic!  We have loved all but one of the meals we've made out of this book, and all have been SO simple and quick to put together.  I'd highly recommend it.

**5**

My mom comes to visit on Tuesday!  I am SO excited to see her, even though it's only been a couple weeks since Aidan and I were back in Minnesota.  The days get long and kind of lonely being at home with a little one all day (as I know all parents experience).  She'll only be here for a couple days, but I am very much looking forward to having company during the day.  I'm hoping to get some spring cleaning done...like organizing my disaster of a pantry!

**6**

It is crazy to me how much I adore our little one.  I know, that's a typical mom thing to say, but it really does catch me off guard sometimes, even in the middle of the night when I'm exhausted and he's awake again, or in the middle of the day when I desperately want him to go down for a nap and he'll only want to sleep in my arms.  I look at him and I see myself reflected back in his little face and expressions, and that is an incredible feeling.  Being a mom is so much harder and so much more exhausting--physically, mentally, and emotionally than I ever expected, but I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world!

**7**

This one is completely shallow, but I have been in love with the TV show Smash these days.  Broadway musical, drama, incredible talent, and scandal...what's not to love??  But in reality, Katharine McPhee is absolutely amazing, her voice is incredible and I love watching to hear her sing.  What I think is awesome is that both my parents are hooked on it as well :)

Three Months!

Little Bug!  You are three months old!  You're past that "missing 4th trimester" that people talk about!  Woo hoo, we all made it!  You are growing into such a fun little boy, your mommy and daddy just love you to pieces!  We don't have a 3 month doctor's appointment, so we don't have any official weights and measurements of you, but by our best calculations you're about 12 pounds 10 ounces and I have no idea how long you are but I do know you've completely out grown all your 0-3 month sleepers.  We're definitely into 3 month clothing with you.  In the past month you have come so far working on your tummy time and lifting up your head--you no longer howl at us when we put you on your tummy, and you are doing quite a wonderful job at lifting your head up off the ground.  It's hard work, and you still get tired easily, but we are so excited to see you actually working on it!  

This past month you got to meet one of mommy's best friends, Missy, when she came down to spend a couple days with us, and you took another trip.  You're going to be quite the well traveled baby!  This time you and Mommy flew to Minneapolis to your Grandma and Papa's house while your daddy went on a mission trip with the church.  They went to build houses in Arizona and you and I went to play and take naps and spend time with Grandma and Papa. 

Another fun thing is that you have started figuring out that you have hands!  You like to suck on your hands sometimes and you are paying more and more attention when your hands accidentally whack one of your toys or stuffed animals.  You like to reach out and touch the stuffed animals that are propped up on your changing table.

Your smile is getting brighter and brighter and you're trying so hard to talk!  We can tell you have a lot to say, and you'll lock eyes with mommy when feeding and stop eating to smile and talk to her.  This morning you laid in Mommy and Daddy's bed and told us all kinds of things--I think you were telling us all about your night :)  You have no idea how much I adore these "conversations"--I could spend hours listening to you "talk" to me.  

Every day it seems you become a little bit more aware of what's going on around you, and more interested in looking at the world.  You have come to love your baths and kick and splash (even though I am not sure you realize it is your own arms and legs making the water splash!).  Mommy gives you a bath most nights because it helps quiet you when you're getting fussy in the evenings before bed.  It is so much more fun now that you can kind of sit up on your own in the tub instead of having to have Mommy hold you!  

We've spent this past month working on sleep with you--I realized about a month ago that babies are supposed to take naps after being awake only an hour and a half or two hours, and that has made a huge difference in our house!  You're only napping for 20-30 minutes each time but it seems to be enough to help you "reset" your little brain and body and makes you ready to be awake and play again for another 90 minutes or so.  This probably goes against every baby sleep book, but your afternoon nap is still almost always in Mommy's arms, laying on my chest.  We lay down together and that seems to help you get in a bit of a longer nap than 30 minutes (today you slept for an hour and a half!) and it lets Mommy get a much needed nap and some baby snuggle time.  You have no idea how much I adore the feeling of your little body snuggled up next to me.  Someday we'll probably have to stop these little naps of ours, but for now I will treasure every afternoon we get to snuggle together.  

Another exciting thing of the month is that you've started paying a little attention when we read to you! You will stare at the pages of a book and actually let us get through most of a short story, which absolutely makes me beyond excited!  Your favorite book this month is Chick a Chicka Boom Boom about all the alphabet letters that climb the coconut tree and then they all fall down!  Oh no!  We have read this book a LOT this month (well in the last two weeks, your Grandma gave it to you when we went to her house and we've read it every day since then).  Here you are with Papa, he's reading you Good Night Moon and you were pretty fixated on the pictures!

It was your first big holiday this month too!  Easter!  We went to church and then had a beautiful lunch at Jim and Chris' house.  You had fun for awhile but got awfully tired and couldn't settle down to take your nap with all the people around, so we finally brought you home to sleep (and you slept for 2 hours, woke up for an hour and then went to bed for the night!  Poor baby, Easter really took it out of you!)  Here's our little family at church on Easter.

Aidan, your Mommy and Daddy couldn't be more in love with you!  You are going to roll your eyes when you read this later in life but almost every day I look at you and I get teary just thinking about how perfect and amazing you are.  There are tough days, days when I can't seem to figure out what you need, but those are getting fewer and father between.  You crack me up all the time with silly expressions like this one in this photo and you melt my heart with your smiles, coos and attempts at laughter (which right now is more of a one syllable "ha!")  I love the way your eyes light up when I come into the room to get you from a nap, and I love the way you never ever stop kicking your feet if you're awake.  (Changing you is quite the challenge!)  Every night as you lay snuggled in my arms in the rocking chair as I rock you to sleep I  am overwhelmed at how God has blessed us with you.  I never knew that when I became a mom I'd know you better than I know any person on the planet.  I know what your perfectly round little cheek feels like against my lips.  I know your scent.  I know the temperature of your forehead and little ears and now I know how my mom always knew if I had a fever by kissing me.  It's because she spent an exorbitant amounts of time kissing my forehead so she knew if something changed.  

We love you so much baby boy!  Happy 3 months!

Parents Need to Eat Too!

If you have known me for awhile, you know that cooking is one of my loves. I love menu planning for the week, grocery shopping, and setting a fresh meal on the table. As you can imagine, since our little one was born I have not done much cooking and that has been frustrating. It's not the fact that I have not been able to cook that has bothered me, it's the fact that when I don't have a menu and plan set I am so much more likely to succumb to fast food, frozen pizza, and other unbalanced meals just to fill our bellies even if it is completely unhealthy. This drives me crazy and goes against everything I was raised to value about food and meal times! A few weeks ago my friend Karen, also a relatively new mom, told me about a cookbook she found and loved. It's called Parents Need to Eat Too by Debbie Koenig and is full of easy meals that are designed for tired new parents. Some are crock pot recipes, some are "one handed meals" that you can eat while holding a little one, some create larger amounts of food so that you can freeze a portion for later, some are "nap friendly" recipes so that she has them broken into stages that you can put together during your kid's various naps throughout the day, and some are designed to help increase milk supply for nursing mothers. I ordered a copy of the book and while I've been here at my parents house I actually read through the entire book cover to cover. It has great tips, and the recipes look SO yummy and balanced and healthy. I decided to take advantage of the extra help I have here and created my monthly menu for April, and then went through all the recipes and made my grocery lists for each week of the month. Debbie has a website that goes along with the book (www.debbiekoenig.com) with links to a ton of recipes not in her book. In order to get you to purchase the book she doesn't link to those recipes. So in case you need some inspiration, new ideas, or are just plain tired of your normal menu, feel free to try some of these along with us this month! To make things easier for planning I assigned a different food category to a different night of the week. So in our house this month Mondays are Mexican food night, Tuesdays are pasta nights, Wednesdays are left overs, Thursdays are some type of meat and/or potato night, Fridays are free nights--so something out of our freezer, or left overs, or going out, Saturdays are slow cooker days, and Sundays are soup and salad nights. So many bloggers I read use a system similar to this to help their planning out, so feel free to borrow the idea as well!

Here's what we're going to be testing out this month--all these are from this new cookbook.

Quick Black Beans & Rice

Beef Ravioli Lasagna

French Onion Chicken (you caramelize the onions overnight in a crock pot and then add chicken in the morning to let it cook all day--so easy and it looks amazing!)

Balsamic Beef Stew

Quesadillas with cheddar and mango chutney

Pasta with roasted cherry tomatoes and shrimp

Chipotle Sloppy Joes

Moroccan Red Lentil Stew

Butternut and Gruyere Stuffed Baked Potatoes

Roasted Vegetable Beef Barley Soup

Blue Cheese & Bacon Stuffed Baked Potatoes

Curried Lentil Soup

My mouth is watering! Anyone else ready to get cooking!? I'll let you know later how these things turn out and if I'd still really recommend the book after cooking from it, but for now I'm just super excited to have a month of meals planned out and the shopping lists to go with them!